who i was before i became “confident”
10 year old Suzanne -> 20 year old Suzanne (i dug that old pic out from the depths of FB LOL)
“From the time I was 10 years old up until I was a freshman in college, I hated myself and thought that there was something wrong with me.
I constantly seeked out praise from others and believed that everyone I met had to like me.
When I started meeting new people in college, I realized that I had lived life under other people’s orders my entire life up until then. It was the first time that I was the one making decisions for myself and my future.
Those four years consisted of many difficult lessons and times of deep pain, but I finally learned how to love myself and how to be confident in my own skin. Now, I love and appreciate who I am, and am so proud of who I am becoming every single day.
I love my smile whenever I look in the mirror. I love how I’m surrounded by people who I love and who love and appreciate me back. I love how I am able to be grateful for everything around me so that I can be in the driver’s seat of my life and pursue my biggest passions.
Coaching is a major factor that has made my confidence skyrocket and appreciate myself for who I am.”
This is a story I wrote about myself and who I was before I became “confident”.
Even though this story is part of one of my marketing offers, it is 100% true. These reflections were the result of looking back on who I was before I started investing time in understanding myself and my own personal development.
I remember the days when I was insecure about my body as a child. I would come home and look in the mirror, and feel sad. I would smack my tummy and get mad at it. “Ugh, why is my tummy so chubby. Bleh.” and I was freakin’ 10 years old!!
When I looked back on moments like this, I was shocked. I couldn’t believe that I had those thoughts about myself. But, whether it was when I was 10, 13, or 17, I had insecurities. Even though I was a strong student and great in school, I didn’t know what else I wanted in life other than to go to college - because that was the belief I was taught to have from the minute I was enrolled in public education.
Our beliefs essentially make up our entire life. In a room filled with 100 people, the same event can happen for everybody, but every single person in that room will have a different interpretation of what happens based on their beliefs and biases.
That’s why although I was shocked at my reflections of my past self, I wasn’t surprised. With the beliefs that I had as a child and teenager (that I was fat and ugly and had to focus on only school and nothing else), of course I never thought about what else I wanted. It’s because of what my beliefs were back then and what I thought life was about and who I thought I was.
So yea, actually, I couldn’t say that I genuinely loved myself for who I was until I started reflecting on my life and who I wanted to be in 2020 during the COVID pandemic. I was forced to really pay attention to my internal thoughts and for the first time, gave myself a chance to ask myself what I wanted in life. What I really wanted. Not what my parents or friends thought I should want, but what I wanted! I’m living my life for myself after all! Not for anyone else… anymore.
I use everything I’ve learned and experienced in my life in order to build my future, and thus, I am completely transparent and honest when someone asks for my help on how they can grow their own confidence and begin build their biggest dreams. I bring everything I can to the table.
Lastly, I want to tell you this: You are enough. You are powerful, intelligent, and beautiful. I want to empower other women, and eventually, have them 100% believe in this themselves. For a start, I believe in YOU.
If you are ready to change your life and become a confident and powerful woman who shows up in life as your authentic self every single day, visit my coaching page to learn more about how I can help you do just that.
I look forward to hearing your story.
To your success,
Suzanne
